Surrogacy and LGBTQ2IA+ Family Building
Many LGBTQ2IA+ individuals choose to incorporate surrogacy into their fertility plan. Below, we provide an overview of the procedure, discuss some unique benefits that this process may bring, and highlight how to overcome family planning emotional challenges.
LGBTQ2IA+ family building doesn’t come with the ‘blueprints’ that many heterosexual couples have when planning their journey. It can feel overwhelming to navigate the field of infertility when a significant amount of the available information is directed at an idea of family-building that doesn’t align with your goals. However, this idea of starting from scratch and designing your fertility journey can also be a time of great excitement and possibility.
The exponential growth of assisted reproductive technology (ART) means that many families now have a wide array of family-building options. As the fertility field continues to grow, we encounter new emotional challenges. It is important to remember that these emotions are valid – building a family is no easy task – and the feelings you are experiencing may be more common than you think.
Benefits and Emotional Considerations when using a Gestational Carrier or Traditional Surrogate
A common concern of individuals using a gestational surrogate to carry their baby involves trust. For example, can I trust the surrogate to live a healthy lifestyle? Can I trust them not to become emotionally attached to my baby? Understandably, some intended parents worry about this aspect of surrogacy, as having a gestational carrier requires you to trust another person (often a stranger) with something so important to you. This is not easy to do, especially for individuals who have spent countless hours trying to build their families. However, many intended parents grow to have positive, trusting relationships with their surrogate.
Building this trusting relationship with your surrogate has a lot to do with good communicate and boundaries. A good balance for intended parents to establish in their parent-surrogate relationship is to be involved in the pregnancy without becoming controlling. This can be challenging at times, so it is essential to weigh these emotional considerations before pursuing this route for family-building.
Many of our patients grow their families through surrogacy, so we understand the emotions associated with this route. It is normal for individuals considering a traditional surrogate or gestational carrier to have questions about the process and even some uncertainties about if it is right for them. In your first appointment at the clinic, we can help answer any questions, ensure you understand your fertility plan’s implications and work with you to determine if this process would be a good fit for your goals.
For readers who are interested in learning more about this family-building option, be sure to follow this link where Anova’s Medical Director, Dr. Marjorie Dixon, explains the process of surrogacy in Canada.
Family Building: The Anova Way
At Anova Fertility & Reproductive Health, one of our core values is creating an inclusive environment for individuals to build their families. Our role is to facilitate a smooth experience for patients of all genders and sexual orientations.
It is essential to choose a fertility team experienced in LGBTQ2IA+ family building. One that is well-versed in the many ways to grow a family, allows flexibility in planning your fertility journey, and understands the emotional aspects of building a family.
To learn more about family planning options, be sure to register to attend Dr. Dixon’s webinar on June 28th at 7:00 PM ET.
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